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thestral wrote:(spirited/violent, take your pick).
i would love to add my opiinion to this discussion and sorry tanuki but i'm supporting mom, maybe girls see love differently than guys but it's true you do sometimes have to brerak a slate over a guy's head to get him to notice you like him. my current situation is very messed, up, a guy and me for 2 years we make awkward passes at each other yet the only thing that happens is NOTHING!!!! so instead we fight bicker and ARGUE until we are blue in the face. and yes guys do mature slower so they don't see something right in front of them.
but to a girl it's so obvious that ron and hermione are attracted but when it comes to matters of the heart we all become hideously inept at expressing ourselves.
i'm too proud to say i like the guy and he's too proud to admit he likes me so the dance continues and i can see the same thing with ron and hermy. there's no argument about it, ron and hermione will end up together. love dammit it, it always gets us damn sentimental fools.
Tanuki wrote:[As for men maturing slower. I really hate hearing that. Granted, my opinion of my peers is not great. But this superiority thing women seemed to have developed as regards maturity is more environmental than naything, and it is held on to so tightly so mendon't feel guilty about dating younger women and women can have something over men. Both being outdated concepts
This is not quite right. It's pretty well-established even scientifically according to studies of the brain and studies in the area of emotional intelligence that women do have a little something extra in the maturity department. Most fully-grown men, who have some semblance of self-awareness, will admit this to generally be true. It takes quite awhile, like in your 30s and 40s, for many guys to "get it" in terms of relationships, intimacy, etc.Also, on the discrepancy of getting your crush or whatever to notice you, men have a hard time too owing to a rather large inferiority complex (interdispersed with egocentric fools). They never feel like they can admit their feelings to the women they like.
Inferiority complexes belong to individuals who are generally not very emotionally mature.I also need to reiterrate that they may be attracted to each other, but if they were to hook up, they would be miserable a sizable chunk of the time.
There's no way this can be plausibly predicted this as time does not stand still. People grow, mature, change, every moment.Sentimental fools are just that, fools. Thinking pragmatically is the way to go. It's not easy, but once you shut off your emotions, life is so much easier to live, and you really don't miss them
I think that pretty much speaks for itself. You can't engage in emotional issues and get anywhere at all, if you're not in touch with your emotions. See any therapist that specializes in the Jungian disciplines.
As far as your situation is concerned with your male friend. It sounds to me like your arguments stem from your inability to express your feelings, not the other way around. Might i suggest involving a third party. It does tend to make thins easier if there is someone who wont feel so embarassed saying the things you want to in your place. A go-between if you will
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