Choices

[Won Wheezy]

Oh, Alice don't get yourself down so much! Everybody sometimes has doubts about the others feelings in a relationship, that's just natural. And although this sounds like a really nice thing of him to do for you, it doesn't give him the right to treat you as he does. But it does show you that he still loves you, because if not he wouldn't bother. So, you should really try and tell him how you feel about the situation, tell him what you feel like when he talks to you in such a disrespectful manner again. He might not even realize that he is hurting you with his behaviour.
You're not a drama queen, love - you deserve to be treated as the intelligent, lovely and strong person that you are.

[Phaerie]

Yeah its ok to feel miserable or insecure about things, it doesn't make you a drama queen or anything else. Just occassionally we need reassurance that people love us.

Hugs
Rosie

[Barry Trotter]

everyone needs reassurence

its fine to look for it. i think this might show that he really didnt realise he was treating you so annoyingly.

he obvieously loves you, and like all men can be a wally.

[Alice I]

like all men can be a wally.

That's an interesting term. What does it mean?

I know it's not wrong to look for reassurance but I do feel kind of...
how shall I say...
Over The Top with all that complaining about him and how he never really loved me. Boo Hoo.

You are right Barry he does love me.
My father said that his biggest problem is that he never learned how to express those feelings and hiding inside of a beer can doesn't help him to learn.

With Emily's injury he has been drinking far less and has been around a lot more. When I say around I am speaking figuratively as well as literally. He has actually tried to help me care for her, he has taken time off from work to go to the surgeon with us the last two times she had to go. It is quite difficult because she is completely helpless at the moment. We have to carry her everywhere, including to the bathroom.
He even got her a wheelchair from one of the other firefighters so that I can take her for walks up and down our hill. The wagon just doesn't work on such a steep incline.
He has also tried to give her and me a little more moral support. I am very tired lately because of the strain of taking care of a 4 yr old the same way you would care for an infant and Emmy is no ordinary 4 yr. old. She is 52 pounds without the cast and carrying her up and down the stairs and to the bathroom several times a day has done wonders for my back and neck. He sees this and has tried to pick up some of the slack.

It is nice to know that after a long day of caring for Emily followed by a full evening of work I can come here and whine without recrimination.
Thankyou all very much!

[han lin]

a wally is the same thing as being silly or a berk or..... twazack or urrmm dufus or i think thats it

[Phoenix in the Ashes]

lol everybody is allowed to whine sometime, why do u think God invented languages!!!
It's been a while since you last wrote a message so you probably have moved on, but still, how are you doing now?

[Alice I]

lol everybody is allowed to whine sometime, why do u think God invented languages!!!
It's been a while since you last wrote a message so you probably have moved on, but still, how are you doing now?

I actually havn't checked in in quite a while! Funny that I should do so on the day you ask a question

I am doing fairly well. The hubby problems have gotten a lot better. The kids are the stress now though through no fault of their own. Ally my 7 yr. old has had a few issues lately that have proved vexing. She is under going testing for glocouma and will mosty likely be getting her tonsils out as soon as we can get her healthy again. Now we are watching her (Well tonight anyway) for signs of acute apendicitis (?sp).
Geesh you get one kid healthy and the other one gets sick!! arrggghhh
Well that is the wonderful world of parenthood.
Well I have to go for now but thanks for asking Phoenix.
I appreciate it.
Thanks Alice