Broomsticks And Owls

by **Won Wheezy** » Wednesday 9 June 2004 8:47:32pm

Maybe one of you strange creatures can help me on that one! :-?

So, I have this lil problem. I like this guy, well, we already kissed and stuff last weekend. The next day he told me best friend that he really likes me and thinks I'm gorgeous. Now, I asked my friend for his number and sent him a message yesterday, and no reply all day. I sent another message at night, asking if he got my first one and he replied that he was so busy and whatever, no time to reply, blabla. So, I'm not naive, I thought, obviously he is not interested. BUT a minute later he replies again, saying that we could talk tomorrow because he'd have more time them. That cheered me up a little, although it didn't convince me that he meant it. So, I didn't want to do the first step today, because i HATE being obtrusive. And he didn't write nor call again! So, my question is, why the second message if he isn't interested? HUH? Any suggestions? :???:

by **Alice I** » Thursday 10 June 2004 2:09:39am

That sounds exactly like the story my sister told me after she started dating this fellow a few months back.
Ultimately with her it ended up being this fellow's problem. He wanted to date her but he was afraid of getting hurt by her. He ended up jerking her around this way with conflicting messages for a couple of months and she finally ended the relationship or lack there of for her own sanity.

Now I am not saying that this is the case with your fellow but it sounds suspiciously familiar as I said.

If you end up going on a date with this guy ask him flat out what his intensions are because you do not want to play cat and mouse. Tell him that if he is indeed interested that he should either act on those feelings or not but to make up his mind one way or the other.

And men say we are indecisive! :grin:

by **TDM** » Thursday 10 June 2004 2:46:15am

well, first of all, if he doesn't call you back, he's kind of a jerk. now, as i guy, if a girl is willing to go out with you, i don't understand why he wouldn't take the opportunity. sometimes, guys are just not wanting to make the ultimate first move that ends up in a relationship, because if something goes wrong, we (or i should say at least i) feel that it's my fault, since i started it up. however, i'm only 15, so i wouldn't take anything i have to say about relationships too seriously.

TDM

by **Mint** » Thursday 10 June 2004 2:32:43pm

Personally - i would do nothing.

U made an attempt, so he knows that u r interested. And he didnt do anything about that - thats the end of that. ^^

If something really did happen (and it could have) - he will contact u at some point later.

by **Won Wheezy** » Thursday 10 June 2004 2:46:38pm

Yeah, that's what I was going to do, mint. And I'm not saying I want a relationship with him cause I hardly know him. But I wouldn't mind getting to know him a bit better. Well, if he is interested he will contact me, as mint said.
Thanks all, I appreciate it.

by **Barry Trotter** » Thursday 10 June 2004 5:23:27pm

ha ha ha

guys can be just as strange as girls

its just as hard for a guy to make the first move, but i think in this case you're right to leave the ball in his court. if h'es a friend of our friend then theres a strong possibility that you'll meet at some future social event anyway, so even if he doesnt all you'll still see each other. , play it cool. he'll soon come running

by **Won Wheezy** » Thursday 10 June 2004 6:11:20pm

or not. But I'll see. Thanks Barry! :grin:

by **Athena Appleton** » Thursday 10 June 2004 7:47:46pm

The only guys I know that actually return phone calls immediately, or call when they say they're going to call, are gay guys and my grandfather, who has nothing else to do with his time. :grin:

I think it's fairly typical for a guy to say "I'll call you tomorrow" and call sometime the next weekend. It doesn't always necessarily mean anything.

But if you called once, left a message, then called a few hours later to check and see if he got your message, you want to avoid being... well, being scary. :lol:

Relax... the guy seems to like you, he talked to his (or your) friend about you, give him a window of time to do the "typical-guy-doesn't-call" thing, and take it easy. :grin:

If this happens all the time, talk to him about it, but it sounds like you guys are just starting to start up a relationship, so try not to make a huge deal out of it.

by **Krum** » Thursday 10 June 2004 7:57:15pm

NO WAY!!!HAHA!!So it works!!You know, he's delaying the call so you would think about him all the time(or at least most of the time).When he calls, you're gonna be very happy just to hear him and forget how he didn't call you.You women know nothing of being courted

.I've tried it only once and it worked and this is the ultimate proof.Sexes are reversing-men are getting very hard to understand, manipulative and willing to make sacrefices and be gentle and stuff, while they pick girls who are true party animals and full of energy and are dominant.You know, this is a standart pocedure so don't worry.He's just not crowding you, he's doing the exact opposite 8)
PS
HAHA!IT WORKS!!YAAY :lol:

by **Won Wheezy** » Thursday 10 June 2004 9:20:35pm

awww, if that is a fact, it is MEAN! :evil:

Athena, I didn't actually call him at all, I only sent the first message and the second one to ask if he got it. Then I erased his number, lol so that I'm not tempted to "stalk" him.
Krum, well thanks now you have got me hoping again, I had already given up on him. So, if he does not call me soon, it will be YOUR fault if I get all upset. :cry:

Grrrrrr, thanks anway, lol.

by **Athena Appleton** » Thursday 10 June 2004 10:45:21pm

I never thought guys are that manipulative...

Besides, Krum, you're always complaining about your love life, or lack thereof, on here... so how is it that you can also say "Yay, what I've been doing works" when clearly something isn't working?

I don't get it...

by **Evil Wizard Petting Zoo** » Thursday 10 June 2004 11:25:37pm

Don't you dare call him! If he wants you, he'll call you, if he doesn't, there are loads more guys out there!! But I'm probably not the person to give advice on love. I'm the evil manipulating, dominating, controlling girlfriend! Muahaha! I use those powers for evil so whoever I'm dating at the moment will be compelled to buy me lots of expensive clothes/gifts!